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00 Begin at the Beginning https://stay-close.com/post-00-begin-at-the-beginning/
     
1a About Wendy Sarkissian https://stay-close.com/post-1a-about-wendy-sarkissian/
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 Disclaimer https://stay-close.com/post-4-disclaimer

 
5 Dedication https://stay-close.com/post-5-dedication/
6 Preface https://stay-close.com/post-6-preface/
7 Welcome to my reader https://stay-close.com/post-7-welcome-to-my-reader/
8 My incompetent handling of Ross’s tragic death https://stay-close.com/post-8-my-incompetent-handling-of-rosss-tragic-death/
9 Why we need the comfort, support and guidance of connection https://stay-close.com/post-9-why-we-need-comfort-support-guidance-of-connection/
10 Listening to Dr Alda https://stay-close.com/post-10-listening-to-dr-alda/
11 Pam reflects on mourning in an extended Greek family https://stay-close.com/post-11-pam-reflects-on-mourning-in-an-extended-greek-family/
12 Mourning practices in Tibetan Buddhism and Judaism https://stay-close.com/post-12-mourning-practices-in-tibetan-buddhism-and-judaism/
13 A social support system for people like me https://stay-close.com/post-13-a-social-support-system-for-people-like-me/
14 What this book is about https://stay-close.com/post-14-what-this-book-is-about/
15 What’s inside this book https://stay-close.com/post-15-whats-inside-this-book/
16 How to read this book https://stay-close.com/post-16-how-to-read-this-book/
16a Book 1: Baptism: Life with Karl https://stay-close.com/post-16a-book-1-baptism-life-with-karl/
17 Poem: Baptism https://stay-close.com/post-17-baptism/
   

CHAPTER 1: POSTS 18 TO 20

  
18 Chapter 1: Losing Karl https://stay-close.com/post-18-chapter-1-losing-karl/
19 In the Tweed Heads Memorial Hospital https://stay-close.com/post-19-in-the-tweed-heads-memorial-hospital/
20 A fortuitous meeting with a clairvoyant https://stay-close.com/post-20-a-fortuitous-meeting-with-a-clairvoyant/
   

CHAPTER 2: POSTS 21 TO 36

  
21 Chapter 2: My life with Karl https://stay-close.com/post-21-chapter-2-my-life-with-karl/
22 Meeting Karl https://stay-close.com/post-22-meeting-karl/
23 The art of sexual ecstasy https://stay-close.com/post-23-the-art-of-sexual-ecstasy/
24 Our visit to the black swans https://stay-close.com/post-24-our-visit-to-the-black-swans/
25 Marrying at midlife https://stay-close.com/post-25-marrying-at-midlife/
26 Why don’t you try me tonight? https://stay-close.com/post-26-why-dont-you-try-me-tonight/
27 A near tragedy https://stay-close.com/post-27-a-near-tragedy/
28a Much in common and lessons in courage https://stay-close.com/post-28a-much-in-common-and-lessons-in-courage/
28b A death in the family https://stay-close.com/post-28b-a-death-in-the-family/
29 This strange, enchanted man https://stay-close.com/post-29-this-strange-enchanted-man/
30 Working together and learning to live together https://stay-close.com/post-30-working-together-and-learning-to-live-together/
31 A poetic Karl faces life’s challenges https://stay-close.com/post-31-a-poetic-karl-faces-lifes-challenges/
32 Drawn to Nimbin https://stay-close.com/post-32-drawn-to-nimbin/
33 Man who finishes house dies https://stay-close.com/post-33-man-who-finishes-house-dies/
34 Dreaming, building, loving and losing the gratitude house https://stay-close.com/post-34-dreaming-building-loving-and-losing-the-gratitude-house/
35 Glowing Karl https://stay-close.com/post-35-chapter-2-glowing-karl/
36 A near miss and a delicious lunch https://stay-close.com/post-36-a-near-miss-and-a-delicious-lunch/
   

CHAPTER 3: POSTS 37-44

  
37 Chapter 3: My seasons of Loss https://stay-close.com/post-37-chapter-3-my-seasons-of-loss/
38 Mourning after https://stay-close.com/post-38-mourning-after/
39 Marking time 1 https://stay-close.com/post-39-marking-time-1/
40 Leaving our life behind https://stay-close.com/post-40-leaving-our-life-behind/
41 Cozy, familiar West End https://stay-close.com/post-41-cozy-familiar-west-end/
42 On the cusp https://stay-close.com/post-42-on-the-cusp/
43 Flooded out https://stay-close.com/post-43-flooded-out/
44 After the flood https://stay-close.com/post-44-after-the-flood/
   

BOOK 2: POSTS 44a TO 47a

  
44a Book 2: I do have this https://stay-close.com/post-44a-book-2-i-do-have-this/
45 Brave new life/soft landing https://stay-close.com/post-45-brave-new-life-soft-landing/
46 Poem: I do have this, 17 May 2017 https://stay-close.com/post-46-poem-i-do-have-this-17-may-2017/
47a What is happening here? https://stay-close.com/post-47a-what-is-happening-here/
   

CHAPTER 4: POST 47b

  
47b Chapter 4: The secrets of staying connected https://stay-close.com/post-47b-chapter-4-the-secrets-of-staying-connected/
   

CHAPTER 5: POSTS 48-51

  
48 Chapter 5: Is it wise to stay connected to a departed loved one? https://stay-close.com/post-48-chapter-5-is-it-wise-to-stay-connected-to-a-departed-loved-one/
49 Models of grief and grieving https://stay-close.com/post-49-models-of-grief-and-grieving/
50 My ritual contributions https://stay-close.com/post-50-my-ritual-contributions/
51 Small acts of love https://stay-close.com/post-51-small-acts-of-love/
   

CHAPTER 6: POSTS 52-67

  
52 Chapter 6: The Reconciled Self https://stay-close.com/post-52-chapter-6-the-reconciled-self/
53 The Reconciled Self and the four Gateways of Wisdom https://stay-close.com/post-53-the-reconciled-self-and-the-four-gateways-of-wisdom/
54 The emergence of the Reconciled Self https://stay-close.com/post-54-the-emergence-of-the-reconciled-self/
55 Staying connected: what to do and how to do it https://stay-close.com/post-55-staying-connected-what-to-do-and-how-to-do-it/
56 Connecting after your loved one has died https://stay-close.com/post-56-connecting-after-your-loved-one-has-died/
57 The daily conversations https://stay-close.com/post-57-the-daily-conversations/
58 How to approach the Gateways of Wisdom https://stay-close.com/post-58-how-to-approach-the-gateways-of-wisdom/
59 The Gateways of Wisdom https://stay-close.com/post-59-the-gateways-of-wisdom/
60 Contemplating the four Gateways of Wisdom https://stay-close.com/post-60-contemplating-the-four-gateways-of-wisdom/
61 Using our healing model to address a problem or issue https://stay-close.com/post-61-using-our-healing-model-to-address-a-problem-or-issue/
62 My failed 75th birthday celebration Part 1 https://stay-close.com/post-62-my-failed-75th-birthday-celebration-part-1/
63 My failed 75th birthday celebration Part 2 https://stay-close.com/post-63-my-failed-75th-birthday-celebration-part-2/
64 Shamed by a good friend Part 1 https://stay-close.com/post-64-shamed-by-a-good-friend-part-1/
65 Shamed by a good friend Part 2 https://stay-close.com/post-65-shamed-by-a-good-friend-part-2/
66 Shamed by a good friend Part 3 https://stay-close.com/post-66-shamed-by-a-good-friend-part-3/
67 Five principles for staying connected https://stay-close.com/post-67-five-principles-for-staying-connected/

 
   

CHAPTER 7: POSTS 68-91

  
68 Chapter 7: Acceptance https://stay-close.com/post-68-acceptance/
69 Is this really Karl speaking? https://stay-close.com/post-69-was-this-really-karl-speaking/
70 Asking Karl to help me accept my new reality https://stay-close.com/post-70-asking-karl-to-help-me-accept-my-new-reality/
71 Karl’s first big miracle: when time stood still https://stay-close.com/post-71-karls-first-big-miracle-when-time-stood-still/
72 Accepting so many losses https://stay-close.com/post-72-accepting-so-many-losses/
73 A journey with no destination https://stay-close.com/post-73-a-journey-with-no-destination/
74 To lose being cozy with you https://stay-close.com/post-74-to-lose-being-cosy-with-you/
75 It’s only a house: accepting my housing situation https://stay-close.com/post-75-its-only-a-house-accepting-my-housing-situation/
76 Visualizing a successful house sale https://stay-close.com/post-76-visualizing-a-successful-house-sale/
77 Accepting and reframing our lives together https://stay-close.com/post-77-reframing-and-accepting-our-life-together/
78 One loving soul https://stay-close.com/post-78-one-loving-soul/
79 Praise to Karl, the philosopher https://stay-close.com/post-79-praise-to-karl-the-philosopher/
80 For my lawyers, it’s all about the money https://stay-close.com/post-80-for-my-lawyers-its-only-about-the-money/
81 Aligned intentions https://stay-close.com/post-81-aligned-intentions/
82 Our wedding anniversary lunch https://stay-close.com/post-82-our-wedding-anniversary-lunch/
83 Crossing over https://stay-close.com/post-83-crossing-over/
84 Flooded out and homeless https://stay-close.com/post-84-flooded-out-and-homeless/
85 Entitled to miracles https://stay-close.com/post-85-entitled-to-miracles/
86 The gift of earthly life https://stay-close.com/post-86-the-gift-of-earthly-life/
87 Courage…and a reverse empty chair? https://stay-close.com/post-87-courage-and-a-reverse-empty-chair/
88 Remembering our intimate rituals https://stay-close.com/post-88-remembering-our-intimate-rituals/
89 Teamwork and a soft landing https://stay-close.com/post-89-teamwork-and-a-soft-landing/
90 Acceptance: a reflective pause on pathway to the Reconciled Self https://stay-close.com/post-90-acceptance-a-reflective-pause-on-the-pathway-to-the-reconciled-self/
91 Acceptance: actually doing https://stay-close.com/post-91-acceptance-actually-doing/
   

CHAPTER 8: POSTS 92-112

  
92 Chapter 8: Gratitude https://stay-close.com/post-92-chapter-8-gratitude/
93 In the before time: first poem for Karl https://stay-close.com/post-93-in-the-before-time-first-poem-for-karl/
94 Dr Vanda’s compassionate advice https://stay-close.com/post-94-dr-vandas-compassionate-advicel/
95 High lonesome https://stay-close.com/post-95-high-lonesome/
96 Heather’s response to my desperate email https://stay-close.com/post-96-heathers-response-to-my-desperate-email/
97 How to accept such a communication with gratitude https://stay-close.com/post-97-how-to-accept-such-a-communication-with-gratitude/
98 Reflecting on Heather’s email https://stay-close.com/post-98-reflecting-on-heathers-email/
99 The many dimensions of gratitude https://stay-close.com/post-99-the-many-dimensions-of-gratitude/
100 The “flow” https://stay-close.com/post-100-the-flow/
101 An example of gratitude: reframing Heather’s hurtful email https://stay-close.com/post-101-an-example-of-gratitude-reframing-heathers-hurtful-email/
102 Reframing: Rose Gardner’s example https://stay-close.com/post-102-reframing-rose-gardeners-example/
103 Karl’s simple expressions of gratitude https://stay-close.com/post-103-karls-simple-expressions-of-gratitude/
104 Karl’s blessed life https://stay-close.com/post-104-blessed-life/
105 A grateful Karl in heaven https://stay-close.com/post-105-a-grateful-karl-in-heaven/
106 Reframing failure as gratitude…and solace in small blessings https://stay-close.com/post-106-reframing-failure-as-gratitude-and-solace-in-small-blessings/
107 Dwelling in gratitude https://stay-close.com/post-107-dwelling-in-gratitude/
108 Believing in marigolds https://stay-close.com/post-108-believing-in-marigolds/
109 Reflections on our relationship … and celebrations https://stay-close.com/post-109-reflections-on-our-relationship-and-celebrations/
110 A new beginning https://stay-close.com/post-110-a-new-beginning/
111 A reflective pause on the pathway to the Reconciled Self https://stay-close.com/post-111-a-reflective-pause-on-the-pathway-to-the-reconciled-self/
112 Gratitude: Actually doing https://stay-close.com/post-112-gratitude-actually-doing/
   

CHAPTER 9: POSTS 113-129

  
113 Chapter 9: Forgiveness https://stay-close.com/post-113-chapter-9-forgiveness/
114 Some lessons in forgiveness https://stay-close.com/post-114-some-lessons-in-forgiveness/
115 My initial feelings are not of forgiveness https://stay-close.com/post-115-my-initial-feelings-are-not-of-forgiveness/
116 Apologies and forgiveness https://stay-close.com/post-116-apologies-and-forgiveness/
117 Appreciation and lack of appreciation https://stay-close.com/post-117-appreciation-and-lack-of-appreciation/
118 Feeling beloved and opening up https://stay-close.com/post-118-feeling-beloved-and-opening-up/
119 A paradigm shift and self-acceptance https://stay-close.com/post-119-a-paradigm-shift-and-self-acceptance/
120 Is there still more to forgive? https://stay-close.com/post-120-is-there-still-more-to-forgive/
121 Matchmaker Karl on disrespect for men https://stay-close.com/post-121-matchmaker-karl-on-disrespect-for-men/
122 I am forced to reframe Karl’s laziness https://stay-close.com/post-122-i-am-forced-to-reframe-karls-laziness/
123 Lessons of a conscientious mourner https://stay-close.com/post-123-lessons-of-a-conscientious-mourner/
124 Reconceptualizing Karl with eyes and heart wide open https://stay-close.com/post-124-reconceptualizing-karl-with-eyes-and-heart-wide-open/
125 Not blaming and keeping the door open https://stay-close.com/post-125-not-blaming-and-keeping-the-door-open/
126 The gift of attentive loving https://stay-close.com/post-126-the-gift-of-attentive-loving/
127 Forgiving others as our communication comes to a close https://stay-close.com/post-127-forgiving-others-as-our-communication-draws-to-a-close/
128 At the Forgiveness Gateway: a reflective pause on the pathway to the Reconciled Self https://stay-close.com/post-128-at-the-forgiveness-gateway-a-reflective-pause/
129 Actually doing: some ways of taking action at the Forgiveness Gateway https://stay-close.com/post-129-actually-doing-some-ways-of-taking-action-at-the-forgiveness-gateway/

 
   

CHAPTER 10: POSTS 130-156

  
130 Chapter 10: Engagement: the sacred work of sorrow https://stay-close.com/post-130-chapter-10-engagement-the-sacred-work-of-sorrow/
131 Some origins of Karl’s activism https://stay-close.com/post-131-some-origins-of-karls-activism/
132 The benefits of self-care in grief https://stay-close.com/post-132-the-benefits-of-self-care-in-grief/
133 Why we should take our grief out and about https://stay-close.com/post-133-why-should-we-take-our-grief-out-and-about/
134 Expressive writing https://stay-close.com/post-134-expressive-writing/
135 Ten principles for keeping a journal of forgiveness https://stay-close.com/post-135-ten-principles-for-keeping-a-journal-of-forgiveness/
136 Co-destiny and the Phoenix phenomenon https://stay-close.com/post-136-co-destiny-and-the-phoenix-phenomenon/
137 Spiritual alchemy and sacred activism https://stay-close.com/post-137-spiritual-alchemy-and-sacred-activism/
138 Examples of survivor missions in road safety activism https://stay-close.com/post-138-examples-of-survivor-missions-in-road-safety-activism/
139a You call that a weld! https://stay-close.com/post-139a-you-call-that-a-weld/
139b Planning consultants and activists together https://stay-close.com/post-139b-planning-consultants-and-activists-together/
140 My re-entry into activism https://stay-close.com/post-140-my-reentry-into-activism/
141 Road safety activism: how we did it https://stay-close.com/post-141-road-safety-activism-how-we-did-it/
142 Presenting my Victim Impact Statement https://stay-close.com/post-142-presenting-my-victim-impact-statement/
143 What really happened at Tweed Shire Council? https://stay-close.com/post-143-what-really-happened-with-tweed-shire-council/
144 The first action of our survivor mission https://stay-close.com/post-144-the-first-action-of-our-survivor-mission/
145 Our road safety activism draws to a close https://stay-close.com/post-145-our-road-safety-activism-draws-to-a-close/
146 Bless this Road https://stay-close.com/post-146-bless-this-road/
147 Bless this Road Part 1 https://stay-close.com/post-147-bless-this-road-part-1-road-safety-workshop/
148 Bless this Road Part 2 https://stay-close.com/post-148-part-2-matildas-rainbow-lunch/
149 Bless our singer, Luke Vassella https://stay-close.com/post-149-bless-our-singer-luke-vassella/
150 Bless this Road Part 3 https://stay-close.com/post-150-bless-this-road-part-3-declaration-of-the-matilda-way-gift-giving-and-appreciations/
151 Reflecting on Bless this Road https://stay-close.com/post-151-reflecting-on-bless-this-road/
152 Our activism in Karl’s name to promote road safety https://stay-close.com/post-152-our-activism-in-karls-name-to-promote-road-safety/
153 Lessons from our road safety activism https://stay-close.com/post-153-lessons-from-our-road-safety-activism/
154 Drinking the tears of the Earth https://stay-close.com/post-154-drinking-the-tears-of-the-earth/
155 Engagement: a reflective pause on the pathway to the reconciled self https://stay-close.com/post-155-engagement-a-reflective-pause-on-the-pathway-to-the-reconciled-self/
156 Actually doing it: some ways of taking action  
   

CHAPTER 11: POSTS 157-160

  
157 Chapter 11: Conclusions and letting go of my old life https://stay-close.com/post-157-chapter-11-conclusions-letting-go-of-my-old-life/
158 Reflections on the healing path https://stay-close.com/post-158-reflections-on-the-healing-path/
159 Cutting the cords and letting go of my old life https://stay-close.com/post-159-cutting-the-cords-and-letting-go-of-my-old-life/
160 A huge lesson and final correspondence with Karl https://stay-close.com/post-160-a-huge-lesson-and-final-correspondence-with-karl/
   

 

  
161 Epilogue https://stay-close.com/post-161-epilogue/
162 Appreciations https://stay-close.com/post-162-appreciations/
    Start at the Beginning of the Story https://stay-close-blog-net/start-at-the-beginning-of-the-story/

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